Now Let's Talk About Love

CONGRATS TO MY LIL' BRO, CUTAK WHO GOT 7As 1B in PMR

*claps*

He totally exceeded my expectations....

Not that I have any... Ha Ha

But anyway....

Today is an odd day.

Nothing happened in particular yet I feel kinda distressed. By matters of no significant, of course. C'mon, I am twenty years old - what could I possibly have to worry about? So in desperation to at least feel like an adult, I end up worrying about unnecessary stuffs.

Yes, I am bored. Life is dull, mundane and repetitive. Can't blame me for it.

However, incidents that occurred for the past few weeks caused me to re-evaluate my relationship with those around me and my love for them. It made me thinking - like always - how do I love people that I love?

Hmmm.... LOVE.

FYI, I am not talking about romantic love. Nothing of that sort. You see, I am currently of the opinion that love and romance belong to different categories. At least in my life. And I have never feel any sort of romance before, so any of my opinion here has nothing to do with a feeling that I never have in my limited experience.

Coming back to the issue of love. How do we love other people?

I have always believed that LOVE can be divided into two categories -
1) Rational Love
2) Irrational Love


Rational love is when we care and love someone with the expectation of him/her treating us the same way. IE - I love my friend named Anarkali. We tell each other everything and help out every time each of us is in distress. She loves me and I her. She is kind to me and I to her. 


However, would I keep loving her the same way should one day she decides to bitch up on me? Most probably not. So when the person stop loving us, our abilities to love them back decrease greatly. It is reciprocal. It is mutual.

So for me, that is rational love.

What about irrational love? Man, that's hard. Because there is always a fine line that divides the rationality and irrationality in loving someone. At first we may thought that what we felt was rational love until something huge happened and we realized that we have crossed the boundary of caring about someone too much notwithstanding the sufferings the person may cause to us, directly or indirectly. There is no expectations. Just the feelings. And when that happens, the feelings turn to something out of your control.

So which one is the real love that it should be?

God, no one knows. And it kinda sucks to see that we are victims of both categories of love. We love other people in our lives - rationally and irrationally. Families, friends, favourite actors, musicians, strangers, teachers and other. The care and affection provide for the most important links in our lives and we could not possibly survived a day without anyone that we love or care about.

Rationally or not. Cause honestly, it's much better not finding out about it, especially the irrational ones.

But me and my friend then brought up the question - once you have the feeling of love to a certain someone, how do you show your feelings? You may soften up your attitude towards them, talk kindly, inquire about their well being. Or you may not show it at all. Preferring to care for them through small actions which usually go unnoticed - buying their favourite foods, taking them out for karaoke or getting them new comic books. Stuffs that they love. So they would be happy. Then you would be happy.



In a different note, it's weird to argue about marriage in class. And it's weird to realize that I was quite cautious about making a statement that for me, marriage is an experience. I believe in its sanctity and all that stuffs, I just don't believe it lasts forever. So I am open to the possibilities of getting married and divorce later if the marriage does not work.

Because marriage is a risk. It may be a mistake to marry someone, but I'd rather experience the mistake, at least gain some experience in life rather than avoiding it altogether. [Rite, Palah?] If the marriage does not work, then I'll try my best to get out of it. Anyway, how am I supposed to know what's going to happen. I am just of the opinion that divorce is not a bad BAD thing.

That's it. And I am leaving it at that.

Just another ritual posting of a hot guy photo...

Say hellooooo to Nicholas Hoult. Currently my new muse. 

Sooo musing, indeed...

Ruby Jusoh has lots to be grateful for in life. Full stop.